3 Change Agents for Personal Growth

“No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It is life's ‘change agent’. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true”- Steve Jobs

A change agent is something that transforms us and shakes our core foundations. It carries the seeds of potential to heightened awareness and helps us evolve. Growth occurs through a kind of ‘death’ in some way, shape or form. Death is an invitation for something new to arrive. We fear things that end because it seems so final, but it is in that perceived finality that we can seek some kind of reinvention. We are designed to evolve, and a ‘strike’ from one of life’s change agents can prompt us to take a new path, and releasing previous comfort so we can forge ahead. Our ego wants to hold on to what is familiar but sometimes a ‘shake up’ is what we need to test bravery and enter into the unknown. Here are 3 of life’s changes agents.

1. Pain

This is reflected in Steve Jobs enlightening quote about physical death. It is inevitable that we will all endure painful circumstances at some point in our lives. Pain can be a pit of sorrow or it can be your fuel for change. We are all so afraid of pain that we do our best to steer clear of it. Not facing our own inner pain fortifies a denial of it. Through uncovering our own inner pain we are better equipped to deal with it from a broader perspective. We unite, empathize and connect with each other through our struggles. Pain that lies deep within can manifest as anger or aggression. When we face it and recognize it, we can channel it more positively. Pain becomes something that we can understand and through it we can cultivate much needed change. Pain needs to be processed and shone through, not pocketed away.

2. Love

Love is transformative because it leaves you vulnerable. Through love we are open and transparent; we become enveloped in the chemistry and dynamism of it. By the same token, love or the prospect of it can shut us down through the fear of the unknown. How deep is love? It’s like taking a swim in the deepest of waters. We often run scared from it because it’s something we innately know is beyond our control. Love is a change agent purely through its strength and the power of its purpose. A love for yourself, for others, or the work you love to do always takes you to a new place. Love can offer us freedom and joy as much as it can transition us to pain and sadness. The beauty of love is understanding its power to lead you forward, and only you can direct it. Sometimes we need to unlearn everything we were ever taught about love so we can find our own vision and definition of it.

3. Loss

Whichever way loss hits us, it hurts. Loss of any kind almost seems like a part of us has gone missing. Sometimes it is actually more painful to hold on, whether it’s a person you fear to lose, a job you love, or your treasured possessions. In understanding loss we need to remember that the only thing we truly own is ourselves- our energy, our presence. Through loss we can create again. It’s an opportunity for regeneration from the inside out. It is in our genetic makeup to constantly regenerate, and through this we become stronger and cleansed of what does not serve us. The old surrenders and makes way for beautiful new energy to enter. We fear loss, yet we need it to nudge us, sometimes harshly, out of outgrown people and places.

Every seemingly negative circumstance is a chance to move forward in a new direction. Negative and positive only have the connotations and meaning that we as individuals assign to them. A change agent is simply a transportation tool. We all need to move and keep moving, even when we can’t clearly see what is ahead.

“Change is the end result of all true learning”- Leo Buscaglia 

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