3 Kinds of Regrets You Should Never Have

Regret is a wasteful energy unless we use it as a chance to change things. Regret can be born out of a deep knowing of things we should have done but were too fearful to at that time or by staying stuck in self blame and self judgement mode for mistakes we may have made. The pain of regret can cause a build up of wounded mental and emotional energy over time, particularly if it’s more of a ‘looking back’ focus and bringing the past into the present when sometimes it’s too late for you to make the difference. An acceptance of what we have the ability to change should take precedence instead of going over old ground. We can only change what we accept responsibility for. Short term regret can be re-directed so it doesn’t fester. It is never too late if you use regret positively to move you forward rather than keep you chained in. Choose to live your life fully with an inherent understanding of the purpose of the journey, and not necessarily the destination. You should always weigh up the pros and cons of any decisions that you make, but a good question to ask yourself is if you don’t take this risk or act now, will you eventually regret it? Here are 3 insights on regrets to never have!


1. Loving fiercely


Whatever or whoever you love should be done so with passion, fervour, promise and passion. Go into things whole-heartedly with the best intentions. What you are passionate about motivates you, inspires and excites you. Sometimes the things that we are passionate about leave us open and vulnerable because it is an energy that is led through our hearts and not our minds. If we hide our vulnerability by disguising it or veiling it in a blanket of denial then we lose the ability to emerge out of familiarity and take chances on ourselves and others. We are all vulnerable and we can utilise that to move us forward into new and enlightening experiences. Engage in love and never regret showing your heart.


2. Failing and making mistakes


Failure is a bridge to potential success. We hinder ourselves from our own expansion and growth when we become fearful of failure. The most successful people are the ones that failed many times but stayed committed and valiantly continued to pursue their desires. Use any failure as an even greater reason to never give up. Use falling down as a way to get back up stronger with remarkable resilience. We learn so much from everything that goes wrong and broadens our perspective, when you lose, you actually win. Loss inspires a greater insight into how you can do things better next time. Don’t be afraid to fail, be proud of yourself for taking a risk and trying.


3. Expressing emotions and thoughts


Unsaid words and unexpressed emotions can haunt you deep within. You may try to cover them up on the surface but they remain locked into your subconscious. When we don’t express our feelings and the words of our heart they become more hurtful as time passes by. Unexpressed emotions often manifest as regret, remorse, anger and resentment which blocks your mental and emotional creative flow. Never regret speaking your mind, your heart, or your truth. The outcome may not be what you want it to be but you have given your words a voice and a value to free them and free yourself too. We are only responsible for our own actions. Say what you need to say, feel what you need to feel and then make a choice to move on with no regrets.


“Make the most of your regrets; never smother your sorrow, but tend and cherish it till it comes to have a separate and integral interest. To regret deeply is to live afresh”- Henry David Thoreau

Never miss an opportunity to evolve and uncover the true bravery you have within, shift your focus to your journey and how you can grow from everything that encourages you to move past fear and remorse. In the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take!

 

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