3 Reasons to Value Failure and Loss

At some point we will all fail. Sometimes we fail spectacularly. We scorn at loss and failure and use them as reason to hold ourselves back when in reality, we have so much to learn from it. Ultimately, failing can be the ultimate guidance to a better life. Our true loss and failure only occurs when we don’t learn the lessons of the experience and we refuse to go another step further. All loss, failure, and setbacks are there to enlighten and awaken us and to redirect us to another more suitable path. The key thing is to remain open-minded and open-hearted regardless of harsh circumstances and challenges. When we compassionately view all that has gone wrong through the lens of wise and rational thinking we keep the door open to the buds of opportunity and potential. Failure is simply a stepping stone to success when we choose to utilize and direct it more positively. We should never fear failure; we should only fear never pursuing our dreams in the first place. Here are 3 reasons to value your setbacks.

“Remember your dreams and fight for them. You must know what you want from life. There is just one thing that makes your dream become impossible: the fear of failure” - Paulo Coelho

1. Failure can fuel us

The actions we take are propelled by commitment and determination. Our fears, pain, losses, and challenges act as sparks to our flame of motivation. Without adversity there is no growth, evolution, change or reinvention. Rather than allow our losses to limit us, we can use them as fuel to help us move forward. Failure stretches us, tests us, and pushes us much further than any promise of a quick win. We get better at picking ourselves up when we fall and we discover our inner confidence as we courageously leap ahead despite what knocks us down.

“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough” - Og Mandino

2. Our setbacks keep us modest and humble

We attach great value and meaning to what we know we have struggled to gain. Our trials and setbacks remind us of our humility, fragility, and our imperfections. Failure keeps our ego in check and instills within us a framework of strength where we can recognize and accept the mistakes we may have made in order to generate more powerfully through them. What rises quickly also has the potential to destruct even faster. Yet what we painstakingly pursue with patience and fortitude always carries a longer lasting impression and embeds us with priceless discernment and wisdom. Failure is our foundation for building something that is real, authentic, and a picture of our promise.

“Success is not a good teacher, failure makes you humble” - Shah Rukh Khan

3. Loss and failure keep the pursuit alive

When we positively channel all our bad judgements, failings and struggles we are inspired to keep knocking down the walls of our thought and action. Each loss or failure should only pose the question to us of what we can do better next time. We may feel that we have set our sights too high and that is where we have gone wrong. The truth of the matter is we may have set them too low or just in the wrong place. Instead of narrowing our avenue of perception, we can expand it by thinking bigger, braver and bolder. Our goals, desires and dreams call for emphatic and passionate efforts, innovative thinking, and resiliency; our setbacks can navigate us toward new possibilities as long as we keep trying.

“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can't accept not trying”- Michael Jordan

Amazing comebacks can be cultivated through the greatest of failures. The fear of failure is a tunnel of illusion; one that we create, so in turn, only we can turn that on its head and choose to rise to the occasion. We should always be happy and thankful for our successes, but value and learn from our failures.

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