3 Reminders for Making Better Life Choices

“One's philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes... and the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility” - Eleanor Roosevelt

Our lives are full of choices. How we choose to live our lives and what steps we take to move forward indicates our accountability. Through choice we maintain our innate power to transform and break through our perceived barriers. Sometimes we are thrusted into situations that are difficult and painful but somehow enhance our lives. When we can reflect on the decisions we make that led us to certain circumstances we can ultimately create a better life. We should always observe our choices and actions so that we can take time to understand ourselves better through them. A retrospective look back at our previous life choices tells us much about who we were at that time. Do we still want to be the same person? Or do we seek to advance and progress to better choices that are more aligned with our own true self? Here are a few reminders for making better life choices.

1. Thoughts and emotions drive our actions

Our thoughts, emotions and belief systems drive our decisions. If we fail to observe what we think and feel then we may set ourselves up for making choices out of fear, impatience, or restlessness. The big decisions in our lives are the ones that we should show the relevant regard to and move forward to them from a place of wisdom, knowledge and confidence. There are always pros and cons to any choices you make, the aim should be to take a step back and gain further perspective before you act on something. Write down your thoughts and feelings in order to clarify them, give yourself space and use your intuition to guide you. Direct your choices from an introspective platform and listen to your inner voice.

2. Don’t get stuck between ‘right’ and ‘wrong’

We often get stuck in what we think may be the wrong or the right choice. This kind of mental pressure exacerbates fear and anxiety and will work against  an informed decision. Release the attachment of what you deem to be ‘wrong’ or ‘right’.  When we adjust our perspectives we can use our inherent wisdom as a starting to point to make the best choice without fearing the consequences of it being ‘wrong’. Take a look at a past situation that you can relate your current circumstances to. What did you do? What was the outcome? When we follow our hearts, we choose whatever experience we are guided to for reasons we may not necessarily be aware of at that time. Trust your judgement and have confidence to make the right choice.

“I am the result of the good choices I've made and the bad choices”- Madonna Ciccone

3. Think long term

When weighing the pros and cons of a particular choice, try to outline the short and long term potential of that decision. Is it something that will serve you better now but then hinder you long term? Consider what will work in your favor over a longer period of time.  Take as much time as needed to think about your future. Don’t react to your circumstances, respond to them. Make choices that will have a tremendous payoff later.

You should feel at ease and empowered by the strength of your decisions. Allow yourself to synchronize your thoughts and emotions so the answer is prompted by the truth rather than a push or shove in a certain direction. It is only through our seemingly bad decisions that we are better equipped to make better ones ahead. Trust the process.

“Every man builds his world in his own image. He has the power to choose, but no power to escape the necessity of choice”- Ayn Rand

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