3 Reminders To Help You Through Tough Times

If you sit and think about it hard enough, you’ll realize that life is cyclical. Just like nature’s seasons, the coldest winters will eventually bring new life through the warmth of spring. When we are going through a rough time, it feels like it will last forever. We feel this way because we can’t see what’s ahead and lose trust in ourselves. We battle to make sense of our struggles and woes because we don’t always look for the bigger picture. Our darkest days have something to offer us when we can step outside of our challenges. Hard times won’t last if you don’t let them. Our tough times push us into new directions and enhance our inner strength; our existence is supremely formed through a duality of negative and positive- they exist within each other.

Through acceptance and understanding of this duality we can remind ourselves of life’s beauty. Full measured experiences of both happiness and adversity allow us to grow, evolve, and transcend our perceived limits. Here are 3 reminders to help you make sense of adversity.

1. It’s OK to not have all the answers

We seek the comfort of certainty, wanting a guarantee that everything will turn out fine. The truth is that we magnify our troubles when we pick them apart looking for answers. It is a constant reminder that we are not in control, and this creates further anxiety. We act from a place of fear because we deconstruct our faith little by little. Through a more gentile focus of acceptance and humility, we can gather mental clarity and discern where our power to change and transform that situation lies. Our inner resources to advance and amplify ourselves are fortified when we trust in our inherent wisdom. Rather than become more rigid through circumstance, we can mindfully flow with it knowing that the answers will appear when they need to.

“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” ― Alan W. Watts

2. Tough times never last, tough people do

If we had everything with ease, we would never realize the true dynamism and nerve we hold within, or comprehend the essence of value. Comfort does not cultivate growth or liberation, and certainty is limited by default. Those times spent in frustration and worry are only ever meant to nudge us back to our inner resiliency, inspiring us to bravely engage with the mystery of life and challenge ourselves to live more fearlessly. We outlast our bad times by intelligently allowing our inner strength to materialize through all of life’s obstacles. We gain emotional courage and mental strength through our trials and by facing our fears. Tough times serve to help us appreciate when things are going good and root us to the essence of life’s dual nature.

“Nothing in the world is permanent, and we’re foolish when we ask anything to last, but surely we’re still more foolish not to take delight in it while we have it.” ― W. Somerset Maugham

3. You are not your circumstance

Circumstance is fluid. Our perception of a particular circumstance and how we deal with it is what truly matters. We can choose to hate our situation which will only lock us further into its propensity, or we can decide to aspire to change it. The magnitude of what resides within is far greater than anything external and we need to fervently trust and have faith in this fact. We cannot change anything external without first adjusting or tweaking something within our own measure of self. You are not your circumstance; you have the power to surpass every seemingly negative occurrence. You just need to believe in yourself.

“Do not compromise yourself and put your goodness in the same impermanent category as whatever circumstance happening. Be the best you in every circumstance.” ― Steve Maraboli

Life will continually challenge us. Our attitude and openness in times of hardship is what strikes us out of limiting beliefs and behaviours. Everything is temporary; when times are hard, know that they will not last and when times are good- value them wholeheartedly.

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  • Emily Sutton
    Emily Sutton
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    Love that Alan Watts quote. My friend read a book of his and recommended it to me, I may have to try it out.
    April 10, 2019
  • William Hargrave
    William Hargrave
    Wonderful. I'm gonna save this to read again later.
    April 10, 2019
  • Theodore Landry
    Theodore Landry
    Positive and negative experiences blending together could make it non-dual, you could argue. It's all just a part of life.
    April 10, 2019
  • Mary Wright
    Mary Wright
    All the lunchtime motivation I needed. Thanks!
    April 10, 2019