3 Things to Never Compromise On

Compromise is an acceptance of less than or not enough; it implies settling for something less desirable in order to reach some kind of agreement. Compromise has its place in the world, but not when it comes down to diluting your own standards and integrity in such a way that it is actually detrimental to your mental/emotional well being or sense of self worth. Sometimes it may be better to actually reach a stalemate rather than embitter yourself by settling for something that does not measure up. This can apply to all matters in work, love and relationships, and the decisions involved in daily life. Integrity speaks volumes; it is the art of knowing yourself and what you stand for, and regardless of what other people may think of you, what you think of yourself matters far more. Here are three things to never compromise on.

1. What you truly want

Deep down in our heart we all have a vision of what we truly want and what we deserve. That vision may seem unrealistic or built on false hope to others but it’s what you feel about it that should take precedence. We do not need to walk into other people’s limits or fears- no matter how good their intentions may be. We should adjust our focus to breakthrough our own perceived barriers. If you are going to stand for anything, let it be your truth and your authenticity. People may not respect your rigidity, but they will value your honesty and your passion to paint your own picture of life rather than blend into one that does not allow your true colors to shine and jump out the page.

“If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise”- Robert Fritz

2. Your sense of self worth

The value we place upon ourselves is our own accountability. We cannot judge our sense of self worth on anything extrinsic- it is created and nourished by how we view ourselves from deep within. There are many things that will challenge our self-worth and higher values and it is easy to fall into the trap of feeling ‘less than’. You never have to fight for your inherent worthiness to live the life you choose to live- it is a given because you are here with meaning and value sewn into every part of you. Don’t let anyone invade your heart via the trail of their own inner conflicts. Self-worth is an impenetrable shield built on love, courage, and acceptance for the person you know you are.

“Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got”- Janis Joplin

3. Your voice

We should not forsake our own voice to please others. Our words are our anchor, they set us in place for all we hold dear and believe in. Why should we let anyone else infiltrate our mind and shadow our ability to speak our words with depth, bravery and conviction? What we don't say lies causes greater inner turmoil, but when we speak up we give ourselves an opportunity to unload our burdens. We need to speak from the heart rather than deny the value of our voice. Words can harm and words can heal so we should always choose our words with compassion and understanding, and strive to underpin them with a commitment to our truth and what resonates with us.

“We are never doing anyone any favors by withholding our gifts from the world. It's scary to be fierce, but you can't compromise that for fear of losing those around you”- Idina Menzel

Mutual respect is born from a shared platform of openness and honesty. Compromise helps to move us along but only when it doesn’t generate feelings of less than within us. When we stand strong in our space we build a greater foundation toward our higher hopes and dreams because we know what we want and what we deserve.

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