3 Ways to Adjust your Mistake Mindset

“You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to forget the mistakes, but you don't dwell on it. You don't let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space” - Johnny Cash

We all make mistakes. We must allow ourselves the freedom to make wrong turns and bad judgement calls without berating ourselves when things go awry. The wrong turns we take can often lead us to the right places where we’re always where we are meant to be. When we criticize and judge ourselves too harshly for what we may have done wrong, we naturally invite fear into our minds. We become afraid of making the same mistakes and so we freeze ourselves and inevitably remain locked in to our past failures. When we shift our mindset on mistakes we can adjust our perspective to change the picture of what we see; we can transform the situation by using our inner vision and inherent wisdom. Fears are created through past failures and the prospect of what we don’t want. Our memory bank holds failure all too well. To travel past the fear of making mistakes we need to alter our perception and mental processes. Here are 3 ways to adjust your ‘mistake mindset’.

1. Learn to love your mistakes

Your mistakes have led you to be the person that you are now. They have taught you something and inspired growth. Be grateful for what the seemingly wrong things have motivated you to change within yourself and around you. Own your mistakes so that you can learn to love them. If you keep pushing your failures onto other people then you lose all accountability to actually utilize them for positive change and direction. You will remain stuck in what you feel is wrong until you can embrace it and take charge of it. Don’t judge yourself on your failures; pride yourself with passion on how you elevate and rise from them.

“Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes” - Oscar Wilde

2. Use your mistakes to help others

How can you use your challenges to help someone else? We can often absorb ourselves too greatly in our own pain and failure- yet when we step out of it we gain valuable clarity. Maybe you need to go through the process of things going wrong so that you can help others do better on their path. There is always a reason and a purpose for what we are shown through our misgivings and bad calls. No experience is ever wasted. Your own mistakes are great tools for not only helping yourself but driving a way forward for someone else. We often seek advice from people around us that we have seen make good from whatever experience was put before them. Be that person that someone else feels they can trust with their trials.

3. Don’t allow fear to set in

Fear can build up extremely quickly after a setback. Once anxiety and doubt creeps in, it becomes much harder to move out of what you deem is a failure. When you fall, get back up as quickly as you can. Believe in your ability to try again and find a new way forward. Allow your mistakes and wrongdoings to inspire and fuel you rather than take you down. You cannot change what has been done, but you have all the power you need to spark change for what is ahead. Focus your energy on the present time. What can you do right now to emerge stronger and wiser? Alter your mindset to your courageous ‘comeback’ not your setback. Mistakes and failures are what pave the road to propel you toward success. We never lose as long as we learn. Your most painful setbacks can be used as fuel for your most powerful resurgence. Keep shooting your arrows of action toward your dreams and goals.

“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You're doing things you've never done before, and more importantly, you're doing something” - Neil Gaiman

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