Do You Need To Break Up With Your Goals?

You've done it. You've set your goals and broken them down into achievable, everyday actions. You blaze through the first few days, maybe even weeks. You're on fire. But all of a sudden, seemingly out of nowhere, you have a setback or three, and you fizzle. You can't stand to even look at your goals right now. 

Signs You're Just Not into Your Goals 

  • You start making excuses for not following through on your goals. 
  • You don't even remember why you set the goals in the first place. 
  • You snap at friends or family who ask you how it's going with all those goals you set. 

How Did It Go So Wrong? 

  • You're trying to do too much too quickly. It's good to shoot for the stars, but everyone has to start somewhere.
  • Your reasons for going after your goals aren't compelling enough.
  • Your goals just aren't right for you. This may be the hardest reality to face, but you'll be spinning your wheels if your goals aren't a good fit. 

How to End It or Fix It with Your Goals

Reassess Your Goals

Your goals need to fit you, and part of the perfect match is owning your starting point. Let's say you want to write and self-publish a 50,000-word book in 30 days. It seems like a SMART goal. But is it realistic for you? Does it fit? If you've never written more than a 1,000-word report, you might be setting yourself up to burn out. 

Your starting point is unique to you. Be cautious about comparing your progress to those who started somewhere else.   

Consider starting smaller with a mini-habit like writing 100 words a day. See how that goes for a week, and then set your big goal. If you kill it and end up writing 1,500 words a day, you'll know you're on your way to completing that book.

On the flip side, if you struggle to write 100 words, downsize your goal, or increase your timeframe. Maybe you can write a short book of 10,000 words in 30 days. Or give yourself a few months to churn out that long novel.

Reassess Your Reasons

Why do you want to achieve your goal? Really dig deep. The fact is, if your goals aren't stemming from inside you, it will be tough to achieve them.

An example of an outward goal is "I want to lose 50 pounds to look good." An inward-focused goal is "I want to lose 50 pounds to feel more confident."

You see the difference? Sure, we all want to look good. I'm not going to lie. But how we look to others is not really about us. It's how we feel about ourselves that counts.

Find your inner why. If it's strong enough, you'll be much more likely to see your goal to completion. 

Break Up and Start Over

You've tried. You really have. But it's still not working. It might be time to scrap your goals and start fresh. It doesn't mean you can never, ever get back together. It just means that now is not the right time for you and your goals to be together.

You'll be much happier and more successful, once you find goals that are right for you. 

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