Two of the biggest common denominators among us are the dreams we set up for both our careers and our relationships. Aspirations in career and in love are two aspects of life that people don’t want to settle for, they want their dream job, AND they want to find their soulmate. Getting both is certainly more difficult than it seems, isn’t it? It’s almost as if life doesn’t care about your plans sometimes, giving us one tough decision after another. In the end, you may not get to have it all, but if that job or that special someone is worth trying to make it all work, here are some tips to you sort through all of the complications balancing personal ambitions and relationships.
Be completely present
When you’re working a lot of hours or don’t see one another for a long period of time, make sure that the next time you see together is truly quality time. Eliminate the distractions from the outside world and truly listen to one another.
Assess where the relationship is at
In times of strife, make sure that you’re both communicating what you want out of the relationship, and if everything isn’t quite where you want it to be, make sure you work together to get to that point. If you unconditionally support one another, you have the chance to go far. If it turns out that you both wanting different things is irreparable, then moving on may be for the better.
Explore every hypothetical
When looking at a opportunity that could cause a potential strain on your relationship, you need to know what kind of doors could open from taking this chance. What good things would this opportunity do for you? Could you make a life for yourself doing what you want where you currently live? Is this opportunity a step towards accomplishing your career goals?
Secondly, what would you do if you went forward with with your opportunity? How would you try and make your relationship work? Is it even possible to balance the two without one person resenting the other, or both of you growing tired of one another?
Determine if you can live without
We’d all love to live our lives without an ounce of regret. It’s nearly impossible to avoid, but it’s something many of us strive to do. With that notion in mind, If you forgo a relationship for a career opportunity or vice versa, will you be able to live comfortably with your decision? Of course, it’s always possible for regret to resurface years later when you don’t expect it, but you need to be completely honest with yourself in the present to make the best decision.
Regardless of the outcome, take this opportunity to learn about your significant other and yourself. If you know what you want now, you effectively set yourself up for the future. If you end up having to make a sacrifice, make sure you can live with the decision. Most importantly, take time making these decisions, and think about your happiness along the way.